Today we are going to have a look at a derogatory label that gets bandied around a bit. The "gold digger".
There are women in the world who enjoy a life of abundance. As such they pursue and date wealthy men exclusively. "Rich" is one of their criteria for a potential partner.
Lets have a look at reality. We live in a diverse world, a world where there are people who strive and are successful in a million variations of existence. The very definition of "success" changes as it is thought about by every unique person. One of these instances of success is the reality of abundance, of the wealthy. Such a reality has its own pressures, its own ups and downs. Just have a look at any gossip column if you think people who live in opulence live a totally charmed life. The reality is starkly different.
People have different priorities in life. For some people, commitment to their business or career is their number one priority. This is what earns them their riches. Personally, its not for me, I'd prefer a life of love and fulfilment through commitment to family, but thats just where my priorities lie. For others though, life is about earning and enjoying all the luxuries life has to offer. This is what brings out the best in them as people.
So why is it then, when someone understands themself, knows that this type of lifestyle is the one they need to be the best person they can be and goes out to find a partner who has a similar view on life, they are labelled a "gold digger". Its just silly. Once again, it seems people label other people simply because of their own intolerance.
So if you know what you need in life, just go for it. There will be detractors no matter what you do. If you need a wealthy man to be the person you want to be, good luck to you. There certainly are enough websites out there to cater to your needs.
And never mind those who are detractors. Their opinions always say more about them anyway, than they do about you.
There are women in the world who enjoy a life of abundance. As such they pursue and date wealthy men exclusively. "Rich" is one of their criteria for a potential partner.
Lets have a look at reality. We live in a diverse world, a world where there are people who strive and are successful in a million variations of existence. The very definition of "success" changes as it is thought about by every unique person. One of these instances of success is the reality of abundance, of the wealthy. Such a reality has its own pressures, its own ups and downs. Just have a look at any gossip column if you think people who live in opulence live a totally charmed life. The reality is starkly different.
People have different priorities in life. For some people, commitment to their business or career is their number one priority. This is what earns them their riches. Personally, its not for me, I'd prefer a life of love and fulfilment through commitment to family, but thats just where my priorities lie. For others though, life is about earning and enjoying all the luxuries life has to offer. This is what brings out the best in them as people.
So why is it then, when someone understands themself, knows that this type of lifestyle is the one they need to be the best person they can be and goes out to find a partner who has a similar view on life, they are labelled a "gold digger". Its just silly. Once again, it seems people label other people simply because of their own intolerance.
So if you know what you need in life, just go for it. There will be detractors no matter what you do. If you need a wealthy man to be the person you want to be, good luck to you. There certainly are enough websites out there to cater to your needs.
And never mind those who are detractors. Their opinions always say more about them anyway, than they do about you.
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